As I blog hopped recently, I noticed I began to feel more and more inferior as I looked into the lives of other moms. I try to soak up all the information, tips, and tidbits from women who provide encouragement to strive for better . We need that. I need that. I need to learn and grow as a mother but sometimes it leaves me feeling more frustrated than encouraged.
I wonder if sometimes I give off the same impression of the perfect family, the perfect kids, the perfectly balanced nutritional meals. Some of you who know me are laughing already. I couldn't fool you could I? As much as I'd like to appear like a "Super Mom" that just wouldn't be the truth!
I try to be as candid and real as possible when I blog but I also have the luxury of choosing what I talk about and what I don't (some things just shouldn't be shared or vented). Honestly, some things are just not the image I want to portray. I get to sort through all the pictures of my kids looking like mutants to find the cute ones. So, on some level there is a facade...I get to choose what it looks like.
In an attempt to give all you blog hoppers out there reassurance that there are still less than perfect moms out here in blog world I will confess some of the things that make me an utterly mediocre mom.
1. I'm currently sitting at the computer instead of scrubbing toilets or making my house and myself lovely looking before my husband arrives home.
2. I wear sweats (more like yoga style pants...I don't do elastic bottomed sweat pants..even I have standards) and a pony tail most everyday.
3. I let my 2 year old watch too much tv.
4. I have let my kids go to bed fully dressed before... secretly pleased that it will save one step in the morning.
5. I have gone to bed fully dressed before ...pleased that I can wake up and go about my day without ever having to change (hey when your day clothes closely resemble your night ones its not that big a deal)
6. My kids bath or shower twice a week max. Every evening is ridiculous and frankly I don't have the time or patience for it. (have you seen how thick my daughters hair is!!)
7. My kids know what a Happy Meal is and even enjoy one on occasion.
8. I bribe my 2 year old to use the potty with things like marshmallows, jujubes or smarties.
9. I don't sew...I take the kids clothes to my mom to mend. Thanks mom, no one can patch jeans like you.
10. I sometimes go into "ugly mom" mode when I've lost all patience....its that moment when I realize that I am closely approaching the maturity of the child I am dealing with.
11. I teach my boys to pee in the back yard so they don't have to come back in the house (I'm a farm girl....that's how it rolls out here.)
12. I mentally count down the last couple hours until the kids go to bed....my favorite part of the day. Yep , I said it . My kids are more beautiful when they are sound asleep.
13. I let my kids leave the house in mismatched socks.
14. I never make pancakes for breakfast...pancakes are an actual meal at our house. Cereal can be dinner in a pinch too.
15. My daughter knows the Hannah Montana theme song by heart....and sings it a lot..actually I probably know it now too.
16. I don't cook for my family on Sunday's. I believe that big Sunday dinners should be left behind with the last generation. Mom's deserve a day of rest too...popcorn, toast and left overs is what you'll find at our house on Sunday's.
17. I let my 8 year old do her own hair on school mornings even though she leaves the house looking like...well..an eight year old did her hair.
18. I leave baskets of unfolded clean laundry on the couch for days at a time. It really is rather convenient when it comes to getting everyone dressed in the morning...everything is right there.
19. I throw away my kids school papers they bring home (shhh don't tell them) They bring home so much stuff! I oooh and aww and then when they aren't looking into the trash it goes.
20. I have no idea what I am going to make for supper tonight but I'd better figure it out quick because its going to get squeezed in between 4-h "achievement day" and soccer practice.
Well that's a pretty long list of self deprecating confessions. Now I'm starting to feel guilty. That's the pitfall of motherhood...mothers guilt! Are we doing it right? Are we making the right choices? Are we being too lazy? So many people have so many opinions on everything. How we school our kids, what we feed them, how we train them up, what entertainment to allow, how to discipline, what a daily schedule should look like...even how many kids we should have.
Its so easy to question everything we do or decide for our kids. I think that's just a curse of motherhood...always second guessing. While sometimes its constructive, most of the time it just needs to be shut down and not allowed to take hold in our hearts. As long as we are always striving to grow in wisdom as parents, know our kids better, and know what works for our family I think that we need to move ahead in confidence with the little souls we've been entrusted with.
As long as I stay sensitive to the ebb and flow of life and the needs of my kids (needing more discipline, more encouragement, more training, more one on one time) then I think I can trust my mothers intuition. The rest doesn't matter so much....at least that's what I'm going to keep telling myself. I'm sure I'm not alone in my mediocrity anyway. :)
What are your most mediocre mom (or Dad) confessions? I'd love to hear them.